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Treasure: holiday giving

December 16, 2010

It must have been a gritty test of fate, standing by the shores of the lake, noon sun pulling sweat from pores, thousands of grumpy dads, tired moms, restless kids.  And then, the kicker.  A peek into the picnic basket.  Nothing.  Or next to it, considering that the two fish and five loaves of freshly baked bread could feed maybe the first three families in line, leaving nothing but crumbs and the ghosts of crumbs for the grumpy, tired, restless horde queuing up behind.  So is the miracle that Jesus managed to make that two and five feed five thousand, or is the miracle that the crumbs, crusts, and fragments left over from the crowd’s lunch filled twelve baskets?

I found myself thinking of this inexplicable multiplication problem and the solid “F” I would have earned in my math teacher’s grade book had I produced: (2+5) / 5000 = 12.  Yet this is exactly the kind of crazy miracle so many of us need during the Christmas season.  Something to combat the gritty tests of faith in life.  Something to blow us away with how the leftovers (imagine that!) surpass the original offering.

One quarter, one dime, and two pennies is all Little Friend had to offer.  A paltry $0.37 that wouldn’t even buy one fish, let alone two.  She’s suddenly gotten wise to the whole money thing–good things appear in the hands of shop clerks.  Good things that can be hoarded away in a pink piggy bank.  The clerk at Sam’s Club that afternoon had conjured up the quarter, dime, and pennies, and Little Friend clutched those coins like she had won the lottery.  Which I guess she had.  For a two year old.

And I knew that my daughter, with the tenacity of a particularly pernicious bulldog, would indeed continue to clutch her quarter, dime, and pennies all the way home to that piggy bank.  But I’m a semi-retired teacher with no current students to instruct, so Little Friend takes the brunt of my unquenchable urge to teach.  This, as they say, was a teachable moment.  On our way into the Sam’s Club, we had passed the red kettle-ringing bell of the Salvation Army, and in a few short minutes we’d be passing them on our way out.

The conversation started something like this:

Me: “Oh my goodness, you have so much money!”

Little Friend: “Yeah!”

Me: “What in the world are you going to do with all that money?”

Little Friend: “Huh?!”

Me: “Would you like some ideas about what other little girls do with their money?”

Little Friend: “Yeah!”

Me: “Well, some little girls put their money in piggy banks.  Some little girls trade their money at the store for things.  Some little girls put their money in a red kettle to help other people.”

Little Friend: “Huh?”

We repeated the conversation about seven times.  Little Friend was apparently very interested in knowing what other little girls did with their money.

It’s not hard to see where I was going with this scenario, but as much as I was clearly longing for Little Friend to choose the latter, I figured it was her money and only fair that she, like the rest of us, got to make her decision, good or poor, on where to spend it.

The coins stayed clutched in her sweaty palm as we neared the door of the store.

The coins stayed clutched in her sweaty palm as I (slowly) walked past the red kettle and made a (somewhat big) show of putting my own dollar bill in the slot.

The coins stayed clutched in her sweaty palm as I buckled her into the car seat.

I assumed the $0.37 was destined to feed the maw of the piggy bank.  And I was okay with her choice.

But then.

But then, as I began to pull out of the parking lot, I heard one key word from the back seat: “Reeeeeed.”

With that, I whipped the car around, unbuckled her from the car seat, hauled her back to the kettle-bell combo and watched with heart nearly bursting (take that, Grinch!) as she carefully pushed each coin into the slot of the kettle.

Is $0.37 enough?  It barely buys a pack of gum today.  How will it ever purchase a warm winter coat, feed a hungry family, fix a broken marriage, repair the wounds of a parent’s abuse, pay off holiday credit card debt, keep a house from foreclosure?  The answer is simple.  It’s just not enough.  Not by a long shot.


Unless we have some other reason to hope that Jesus is still out there performing a miracle he’s remarkably good at: taking what we can give—our personal equivalent of one quarter, one dime, and two pennies—and spreading it around so that somehow, inexplicably, we all get enough and still have enough left over to fill a dozen baskets.

So this Christmas season, I’m emptying my pockets.  If Little Friend can do it, then so can I.

If Little Friend has inspired you too, here are three great (and easy) Holiday Giving ideas I’ve borrowed from friends and relatives.

Salvation Army

At the beginning of kettle ringing season, collect a pile of one dollar bills, and every time you pass a Salvation Army kettle, distribute one bill to each member of your party to place in the Salvation Army kettle.  The Salvation Army also accepts donations online.

Heifer International

As an alternate giving idea, consider browsing Heifer International’s Gift Catalog.  This organization helps families around the world receive training and animal gifts that help them become self-reliant.  We enjoy “shopping” in the catalog each year for an animal to gift in honor of our friends and loved ones and then thinking throughout the year how that animal is providing food, income, and training to a deserving family in need.

Family Service Project

Each year, my extended family gets together around Christmas to help others.  Our projects can be as simple as collecting canned goods and clothing for a family in need or volunteering to serve Christmas Eve dinner at a local homeless shelter.  The point is to work together and focus on the real reason for the season, Jesus’s sacrifice for us, and to pass on the blessing to others.  In addition to getting excited about baking cookies and wrapping presents, we look forward to brainstorming ideas for our family service project.  In Pittsburgh, a great resource for volunteering needs is Pittsburgh Cares.

7 Comments leave one →
  1. Melissa permalink
    December 16, 2010 7:21 am

    Elizabeth Hendrickson, you are a good mother. Not just for teaching your child that it’s good to share the wealth, even when it’s only 37 cents… but for being okay with her choice when you THOUGHT she hadn’t caught on. And I wanted to say thank you for your post about giving to charity. It’s so easy to over look them but they really do great things! I love the ones you posted too! I dont know much about Pittsburgh Cares, but now I have another charity to learn about, and probably fall in love with. 37 cents might seem like, well spare change to us, but it can go a long way… for example thats 2 days worth of food for a lucky child with access to the benefits of Feed My Starving Children! You never cease to amaze me Beth! Thanks for sharing, and more importantly going through the steps of re-parking, re-tracing steps and re-buckling!

  2. December 16, 2010 9:19 am

    Such a good reminder that Christmas is more about giving to others than seeing how many presents we can rack up for ourselves. Great job, mom!

  3. December 16, 2010 11:34 am

    Well, that was a challenge, trying to read that through teared up eyes! And my second and third reads were just as blurry! Thank-you for reminding us that God is still in the business of miracles and does them remarkably well.

  4. Martha permalink
    December 16, 2010 3:11 pm

    For many reasons to long to go into, this was a post that certainly touched me today. I pray I have faith to watch for a miracle.

  5. December 16, 2010 4:43 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. You’ve given us all a reason to stop and think for a moment, and not about ourselves.

  6. Melody permalink
    December 16, 2010 7:24 pm

    All I can say is: We can teach our children and grandchildrens many lessons in life but the best way to show them is by our example thats what you did so lovingly. Oh, how you then encouraged her to give what she had in helping others in need. Thank you so much for sharing, teaching and showing me how I can show and teach my grandchildren the true gift of giving. Jesus gave us His all -My blessings to you and your family.

  7. December 17, 2010 1:39 pm

    What a wonderful life lesson! I am a Board member for a non-profit whose focus is to find permanent housing and provide early educational assistance for homeless families and it is just so incredibly amazing how many families are homeless today. So many children are impacted! It is through efforts , like yours and ‘little friend’, that really do make a difference by touching those who are less fortunate. I’m proud of both of you and know God is watching. Bless you both!

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